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This breaks my heart to write, as I am not the type of woman that would ever seek to bring another woman down, especially not a young woman.

But, in these days of social media and viral posts, it seems this may be the only way to send a message of love to a young woman who is seemingly spiraling out on control right before our eyes. It makes you wonder where is her mother, where is her grandmother, or where is ANYONE out there who can wrap two loving arms around her and squeeze her. And yes, we also wonder where is her father because it also appears that she is missing a “daddy,” the name she calls her on-again, off-again boyfriend with whom she’s in an extremely toxic relationship.

Don’t shoot the messenger, I am just a receiver of the message, just like all of you out there, as we are all seeing disturbingly viral posts made by Chrisean Rock and Blueface.

First, I have to say, I had never even heard of these people – truly a generational thang – but this weekend I stumbled across trending articles about a toothless beauty “wildin out” on the internet.

I only bring up the toothless part because she proudly refers to herself as “the toothless bandit.” But as seen on her social media pages, Chrisean got her tooth fixed, but appears to have removed it in order to “please” this young man who posted that she was thinking too highly of herself after getting a new smile.

“I did it for you Blue. I took my tooth out,” Chrisean wrote. “Took it out for you daddy. All I had to do was unscrew it.”

Say what? A tooth that, according to the reports, she lost while fighting on her boyfriend’s show, “Blue Girls Club.”

 
 
 
 
 
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A post shared by The Shade Room (@theshaderoom)

 

As a mother, this is my worst nightmare – that I’d have a daughter so lost in toxic love that she would actually remove something she needs in order to please a man. Oh, and when she did replace it, it was with a tooth with Blueface’s FACE on it! And by the way, her neck is also covered with a tattoo of her lover’s face. What is happening in the world?

 
 
 
 
 
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A post shared by DaBigBaby? (@chriseanrockbabyy)

 

But that’s not the first post that I saw. What drew my attention was the thread of people responding to a video of Chrisean and Blueface showing a damaged apartment where he allegedly broke down a bathroom door in order to stop her from viewing his phone messages.

What worried the hell out of me, was when HE showed the bald spot in her head, of which appears he caused, and her saying “Babe, don’t show them my bald spot, it’s going to make you look bad. Why do you wanna show people what you did to me?” 

His reply to her, “I didn’t do that to you, you tried to run.”

“Yeah, cause I had your phone,” she said. “You didn’t even want me to see what was in your phone.”

He placed the blame on her, and she accepted it.  She also defended the violence. 

“Tht bald spot ain’t shit fr nobody hurt about a patch of hair,” @ChriseanMalone tweeted.

Followed by other responses to commenters, including one saying “It’ll grow back” and “Blueface is the best person in the world. I really don’t trust anyone but him.”

He posted follow-up videos, defending himself, saying he caught her cheating as the madness continued.

More digging showed other posts of them assaulting each other on a Los Angeles street, which someone filmed, instead of intervening, and hyperlink after hyperlink in articles showing a chain of abusive interactions between these “star-crossed” lovers.

But, I have to say, I can’t place more blame on Blueface than Chrisean, because the video posted by TMZ show Chrisean is clearly the aggressor. However, there is absolutely no excuse for either of them putting their hands on each other.

Romeo and Juliet on steroids.

Chrisean even alluded to be “willing to die” for the love of this man.

“Girl stop believing the internet n yes I’ll die for him shit ain’t even like what y’all think,” the tweet on the @ChriseanMalone account stated.

 

I believe I need to end it here, as I feel guilty for even writing this. Part of me wants to erase this as I don’t want to give them any more glory and any ill-gotten fame they appear to be seeking, while the other part of my psyche urges me to post in order to try to help another young woman reading this. In the words of Miss Sofia on the “Color Purple” when she told Miss Celie, “He ain’t worth it.”

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Ladies, young and older, please take heed from a former fuck-up.

  1. Keep your hands to yourself
  2. If you have to check his phone, your relationship is not worth having
  3. Your beauty and self-esteem should not be based on others’ opinions of you
  4. Seek education and set goals FOR YOURSELF. When you accomplish things, you feel better about yourself. The better you feel about yourself, the less bullshit you will take from others.
  5. STAY THE HELL OFF THE INTERNET. You are making a fool out of yourself most of the time, and when people comment on these OBVIOUS cries for help and attention, don’t lash out at the people commenting and reacting, LISTEN to what they have to say. Many may NOT be good advice, but somewhere, there may be some truth or wise words that you may need to hear.
  6. Remember, you ARE enough.
  7. Don’t fall for any lies a man tells you about “you caused me to do this” when they put their hands on you. Classic abuser-speak. Remember, Ike made Anna Mae (Tina Turner) believe she MADE him beat her, instead of him realizing HE was the motherfucking problem.

As far as anyone reading this and asking the same thing I did with “who are Chrisean and Blueface?” Well, for those who are not in the millenial space, she is listed as an aspiring artist (her music sounds nice), a star on the “Baddies South” reality show on the Zeus Network, and a social media influencer. Blueface is a rapper with hits like Thotiana.

Please, if they are reading this – I would urge them to seek professional help and do better and use their platforms to inspire others in a positive way by changing their lives around. And for those who may be reading this and finding or realizing that they are in a similar situation, find help, and do what your grandmothers taught you how to do – keep your hands to yourself and walk away from toxic situations.

This post was written with love, and heartbreak, fearing for the mental health and wellbeing of our future generations. Self-esteem is fading fast for our young Black kings and queens. The internet “taketh” and hopefully the internet can “returneth” if those who are reading, begin to listen.

Just my 2 cents – scratch that – 10 cents for the day. Do better, people.