As we come to the end of another year, it’s time to reflect on life’s lessons. This past year many of us have loved, lived, and lost. No matter what is going on in our lives, we must stay connected with our soul’s purpose by remembering that we are spiritual beings living a human experience. During our short time on this earth, the lessons we learn and inadvertently teach others are instrumental in our evolution.
Here are 5 lessons we should focus on to make this life a little easier.
1. Trust Your Intuition. Whether you call it a vibe, gut feeling, or chills… it’s all the same. Just trust it!!! It can save your life. We all have an innate response to danger. Unfortunately, this society has taught us not to trust it but to do as we’re told. Master manipulators and abusers initially seek to get their prey to trust them and not their own intuition. This is why gaslighting is such a powerful technique.
2. Pay attention to the people around you. Their actions always speak louder than their words. Believe them when they show you who they are the first time. Unfortunately, there are many wolves in sheep’s clothing. People will show you who they are when they feel they don’t need you. Listen to the “jokes” being said about you. That’s how they really feel. It’s not your job to convince them to change or truly like you but to protect yourself at all cost. These very people will smile in your face and try to destroy you behind your back or even hurt you physically when an opportunity arises.
3. Listen to your body. It will tell you when something is wrong. When you’re tired, rest. When you’re hungry, eat. A lot of chronic diseases are a result of us not paying attention to our body’s warning signals. Chronic stress is the number one catalyst to our demise. It is never worth your health.
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4. Let Things Go. “Everything comes into your life for a reason, season, or a lifetime, ” says Ilyanla Vanzant. When you approach all situations, and relationships with this attitude, it makes life a little more palatable. Sometimes that job is just temporary. You’re not comfortable in your situation because you’re not supposed to be. There may be a better opportunity for you if you get out of your comfort zone, and the stress caused by your situation could be the universe trying to give you a hint to move on. The ability to know how and when to move goes back to first lesson we shared, which is trusting your intuition.
Also, knowing when to let a friendship, a toxic relative or a romantic relationship go is key to a happier life. Someone who truly loves you will never try to use you, steal from you, lie on you behind your back or gaslight you. Secret enemies can cost you your life. We all witnessed this in the case of Shanquella Robinson. No matter how good you treat some people, that doesn’t guarantee a reciprocated response. Their hatred and deep-seated envy is a reflection of their own insecurities. It’s not your job to convince them otherwise. Cut them off!!! Your life may possibly depend on it.
5. When you know better, do better. Everyone makes mistakes. This how you learn. However, repeating the same mistake while expecting a different outcome is considered insanity. If you touch a flame and it burns your finger, would you keep touching it? Move in life with the same response. When you recognize your current diet and sedentary lifestyle is becoming detrimental to your health, do something about it. Choose better food options and exercise regularly. If a current situation causes chronic stress, leave it. There are other jobs, and other people in this world with whom you could engage in healthier relationships with. If your current living environment is toxic, move.
At the end of the day, your health (mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual) is your wealth. Once you lose it, all the money in the world can’t buy it. As a Practitioner, I’ve had many conversations with people on their death beds. Not once has anyone ever said they wished they made more money, bought a bigger house, or a more expensive car. Everything they talked about that was important to them, money could not buy. Walks in a park or on a beach with their pets, or spending time with their loved ones, was a common theme.
Get a note pad or journal and write down the pros and cons of any situation you want to change. After your conclusions, write down your affirmation/ goal, i.e., I will learn a new skill ; I will take a trip to a place I’ve never been before; I will start a new hobby and will meet like-minded people with whom I will form healthy relationships with. As you write, envision and feel yourself in these situations.
Thank me later. Let’s go into this new year with a new outlook trusting our intuition and moving accordingly. Happy New Year!!!