“When you turn 30, a conservative curtain falls.”
That statement was made by Argentinian filmmaker Paula Schargorodsky.
Schargorodsky made headlines with her 2013 documentary, ’35 and Single: Female Freedom Has an Expiration Date.’
The documentary gives an intimate portrait of her life as a single 35-year-old seeking ‘real love’ as all her friends and family around her start getting married and having babies.
‘Does female freedom have an expiration date’ has many women asking this question, due to the fact that they are not securing quality partners that their mothers and grandmothers once did.
According to statistics, 32% of American women are single, or ‘never married.’ These trends vary by race and age.
Black adults (47%) are much more likely to be single than White (28%) or Hispanic (27%) adults.
So where does this all fit in in terms of addressing female liberation?
We cannot talk about female liberation or ‘female freedom’ without mentioning the history of feminism and its impact on women.
Feminism started with the intention to create ‘equality’ between the sexes,’ when we look back as far as the 1800’s, when the first wave of feminist movement began.
The ‘Feminist’ wave formally began at the Seneca Falls Convention in 1848 when 300 men and women rallied to the cause of equality for women. It then gave light to feminist advocates and leaders like now-famous activists like the African American Sojourner Truth (d. 1883).
Women became more vocal, marching and demanding to be equal to their male counterparts.
The third wave of feminism began in the mid-90’s, formed by post-colonial and post-modern thinking.
Fast forward to modern day, women are more liberated with proud claims of ‘I don’t need a man’ and ‘my sexual freedom, my body.’
This is very evident and speaks truth to power in the songs of today’s generation, including the proclaimed women’s anthem of 2020, “WAP,” a collaboration by Grammy Award winning artists Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion.
Due to the adult nature of the song and the raunchy lyrics, it’s best to leave the acronyms of the title left for the reader to google.
However, a lyric in the song speaks volumes to the sentiments  of many modern women, “I don’t cook, I don’t clean, but let me tell you how I got this ring.”
According to a report, most  modern men still appreciate and want a woman that can cook and clean.
Recently, rapper Saweetie released a new single called “Best Friend,” featuring Doja Cat, addressing the ‘attack’ on women’s sexual freedom.
The video opens with the two ladies sunbathing in their skimpy bikinis as they are approached by a man who is clearly expressing sarcasm.
“I can’t believe these disrespectful men out here just staring at y’all bodies objectifying you,” he says.
As the the man continues to talk, Doja Cat and Saweetie seemed to be ‘unimpressed’ with his half-hearted concern as the thoughts of their minds are heard by the audience.
“Great, another fake woke misogynist” ….”Does he really think he’s an ally to the feminist cause?”
The video has garnered nearly 14 million views within the last 48 hours.
So how have these types of female expressions and sexual liberation movements played into today’s modern woman’s ability to settle down (if one so chooses?)

According to a powerful article entitled “It’s Time for Women to Reject Feminism  and Kiss Peter Pan Goodbye,” author and public speaker, Kristal Wright, argues that modern women were sold the lie of feminism.

Wright explains, “The 39-year-old single woman spends an endless amount of ink trying to convince herself and single women everywhere that they are happy living empowered lives  of solitude, which couldn’t be further from the truth.”

She continues, “What bothers me about feminism is , ‘oh you can do it all, you can have a baby without a man, you can bring home the bacon, you can cook it up in a pan’ and the fact is you just can’t, women can’t have it all.”

So what’s the price of sexual liberation and female freedom? At what cost are women willing to pay?

Live it up, sleep around with as many male partners as possible, ‘marrying’ into education and careers only to wake up one day past 30 years old with no relational skills to the opposite sex?

Then you find out that, for the majority of women 35 and older, options for finding quality male lifetime partners dwindle with time?

It is a rhetorical question to ask if women ever want to settle down and get married.

According to polls, women over 35 are ‘now ready’ to get married and have children, but believe they deserve a quality male after putting them off for so long and convincing men that they are not needed.

Relationship expert and image consultant, Kevin Samuels, takes a nightly poll of his majority-women callers and asks the million dollar questions of “Do you want to be married? Do you want still work and have to pay majority bills after you give birth?”

The findings were astonishing. Ninety percent of all women say they eventually want to get married and not have to pay bills after giving birth so they can focus on raising their children and tend to their husbands.

So why are modern women having such a difficult time after they’ve experienced ‘getting it out of their system,’ and doing it like the men?

It appears ‘female freedom’ was worth the sad realization that a path has been cleared for many modern women to possibly die alone.

Check out Krystal Wright’s views in a clip from an interview.